From Butter to Bitter

 The Weird Reality of Flattery and Silence


Have you ever met someone who showered you with compliments, praised every move you made, made you feel like the sun in their solar system only to vanish like a ghost when you least expected it?

Welcome to the weird reality of flattery.

The Sweet Start

It begins like a honey-dipped fairytale. People flatter some genuinely, but many strategically. They applaud your talents, laugh a little too hard at your jokes, and call you their inspiration. You’re suddenly “amazing,” “the best,” or even “life-changing.” And honestly, who doesn’t enjoy that warm serotonin rush?

But here’s the kicker: flattery often isn’t about you. It’s about them.

The Real Motive?

People flatter when they want something validation, attention, influence, access, or even just to be liked. It’s a currency. A smooth entry ticket. Sometimes, it’s harmless. Other times, it’s a façade. Once they get what they came for or realize you’re not “useful” anymore their interest fades like mist at sunrise.

And then… silence.

 Ghost Mode Activated

The same people who once typed essays in your DMs now leave you on “seen.” The compliments stop. The emojis dry up. You go from everything to nothing. No closure. No explanation. Just... absence.

Why? Because the flattery was never rooted in sincerity. It was performance.

 The Emotional Aftertaste

Being ignored after being flattered hits different. It’s confusing, frustrating, and honestly, a little humiliating. You start questioning your worth, replaying past interactions like detective scenes. But trust me, it’s not about you. It’s about their inconsistency, their shallow patterns, their inability to form authentic bonds.

 Real vs. Reel

In a world of filtered realities and Instagram-worthy connections, flattery has become a trend. But here’s a truth bomb: Real people don’t just hype you they stay. They support you when you’re struggling, not just when you’re shining.

 So What Do You Do?

1. Spot the red flags. If the flattery feels too fast, too forced, or too frequent, stay alert.

2. Don’t confuse praise with connection. Compliments are nice, but consistency is gold.

3. Protect your peace. Don’t chase those who treat you like a seasonal trend.

 Final Thoughts

People who flatter and later ignore aren’t your people. They’re chapters not the whole story. So stop romanticizing their presence and start respecting your permanence.

Stay grounded. Stay glowing. And remember: being real will always outshine being reel.

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